"I love your confidence"...that comment bothers the hell out of me. I hate when I get dressed and go out or take a picture and post it on Instagram or Facebook and someone comments saying "I love your confidence". I know to some that comment is seen as a compliment but to me it seems as a put down. I'm tempted to ask these individuals like do you look at an "average" size person and make that comment...NO! But, you're going to come at me with it because I am big? I get dressed and put on what I like just the same as the other person but because I am big it takes courage to wear what you like and feel comfortable in?
I know some people may believe that I am blowing this out of proportion and reading too much into it but I disagree. I hate comments like that, I feel that it's the same as looking at me and saying "you're pretty for a big girl" or "you're pretty for a dark skin girl" or "you have such a pretty face"...what kind of back handed compliments are those?